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Across the country each spring thousands of graduation events are held

Across the country each spring thousands of graduation events are held. They are celebrations of accomplishments, the reaching of goals and more.

Interestingly, these events traditionally are called two different names as if they were synonyms: Commencement and Graduation.

As will be pointed out by countless speakers at these events, graduates need to think of this as a time of “commencement” – of a beginning – rather than an ending, culmination or graduation. Each of these speakers will be correct, of course, but I believe this wisdom falls short of being truly helpful or instructive.

The reason it falls short is because the speakers typically are talking about the moment or the event. While the difference in insight matters at the event, the real significance comes for the honorees after the event, based on the choices they make.

Graduates have made choices, consciously or not. And because of those choices…

Graduates have completed.

Graduates have succeeded.

Graduates have reached their goal.

Graduates have expertise.

Graduates have “climbed the mountain”, “reached the summit” and “grabbed the brass ring”.

Graduates are done.

Commencers have made choices too, but they are almost assuredly conscious. And because of those choices…

Commencers are beginning.

Commencers see a bright future.

Commencers have bigger goals in front of them.

Commencers are learners.

Commencers know that based on past experience they can continue to learn, grow and achieve more.

Commencers are just getting started.

The decisions made by these people are decisions that we all can make everyday – even if we haven`t put on a cap and gown in 40+ years (or if we never did).

When we decide consciously to be a commencer, we immediately change our results and the trajectory of our lives.

Here are five decisions that will change you from a graduate to a commencer, and the questions you can ask yourself to help you consciously make the decision:

Decide to be a beginner. Ask yourself: “Do I think I have the answers or am I a curious question asker?”

Decide to dream bigger. Ask yourself: “What do I really want to achieve, and what can I do today to move towards that accomplishment?”

Decide to be a leader. Ask yourself: “How can I make a difference in the world around me?”

Decide to be a learner. Ask yourself: “What can I learn today?”

Decide to enjoy the journey. Ask yourself: “What did I love about today, and what`s next?”

Regardless of your stage in life and regardless of your past choices, I urge you to consider these choices. Choosing the path of a commencer will change your life and your world for the better, forever.

Becoming successful and having the ability to lead does not have anything to do with the environment in which we are placed or possessing certain talents and abilities, and discipline never works long term

Becoming successful and having the ability to lead does not have anything to do with the environment in which we are placed or possessing certain talents and abilities, and discipline never works long term.

What works is the shifting from having to do something to wanting to do something. At the end of the day becoming successful comes down to two things patterns and being able to do things a certain way.

Two kinds of people

There are people who are given everything? They have parents that love them who are there for them. They have a  tremendous education, all the resources only to end up, in and out of rehab their whole lives. Why?

Then there are those that have nothing, they’ve been abused, they have no one to care for them or support them in what their doing and they’ve been beaten down to their knees repeatedly time and time again. These are the people who turn out being some of the finest individuals you will ever meet in your life. Who are out their in the trench’s helping people, contributing back to their communities. These are the truly successful.

Leadership and Truth

Success in business and in life is about leadership and being truthful to yourself. To see things as they are, NOT worse then they are. What I mean by that is there are people out there that get scared when things don’t quite work out for them the way they hoped, so they make it Worse  (in their MIND) so they don’t have to try. They see things worse than they really are. They don’t want to continue, they don’t want to “keep on keeping on”. For fear of being disappointed. They don’t want to feel that sense of rejection or failure.

See it better than it is (vision)

What’s really missing in people’s lives these days and what’s preventing them from becoming successful is there’s no vision. People/businesses without vision will parish. If there is no vision for a greater tomorrow from where you’re at today, you’re looking the wrong way. Every part of your business or life needs a compelling future. If the future is not more compelling then today, even though today may be tough, you can get there.

What do Leaders do?

Leaders lead, How? By example, of course. As a leader, having been successful in business and in life it’s my job, my duty to help people see it as it is, NOT worse than it is. I’m here to assist individuals in creating a compelling future and see it with clarity so they can continue to give it their all and persist without giving up so they to can become a successful leader as well.

In may of 1961 in houston, texas, president john f

In May of 1961 in Houston, Texas, President John F. Kennedy set one of the biggest goals in human history – to put a man on the moon and bring him home safely before the end of the decade. And many in the U.S., and around the world, thought he was being utterly ridiculous.

The validity and wisdom of really large goals was debated long before Neil Armstrong`s historic steps, and that debate will rage far beyond today.

The debate, of course, centers around these two questions: “If we set the goal really high and don`t make it, won`t we be disappointed?” and “Wouldn`t we be better off to set a lower goal and make it?”

Let me answer those questions this way: if President Kennedy hadn`t set that goal nearly fifty years ago, would a man have walked on the moon by now?

Unless another leader had set a similar bold goal, definitely not.

You can`t reach a big goal, unless you aim for it. It won`t happen by chance.

This challenge of what size to set our goals applies at all levels, from nations to businesses to teams to families and, of course, to each of us as individuals. To get past the seemingly safe logic of setting goals so that we won`t be disappointed, we must ask ourselves what we really want and build our confidence in our worthiness to have what we really want.

The Four Reasons
If you aren`t yet convinced, here are four specific reasons why you will benefit from setting BIGGER goals.

Big goals give you a shot at reaching your potential. Let`s face it, your organization, your team and YOU have tremendous potential. The only way you have a shot at reaching that potential is by setting goals that stretch you, challenge you and push you towards that potential.

Better to come up a little short, than not be in the game. Which is better: setting a goal that is your heart`s desire and achieving 90% of it or setting a much lower goal – and reaching it – or even exceeding it by a little? Would a little disappointment be worth the difference in results? I`ll let you decide for yourself.

You are going to be working anyway. Regardless if you have a big goal or a small goal (or no goal at all), you will still be expending effort in that area of your life in some way, right? All the research shows that when we are focused on a goal, we will be more efficient and effective. So, since you`re going to be working anyway, you might as well work towards the big goal that you really want!

You are worth it. It`s true. You are worth achieving the most and the best for yourself. There is no reason you should settle or give in. This is what most people tell those they love, but they don`t live it for themselves. If you believe you are worth it, great! If you don`t, begin a process to improve your self belief until you can look in the mirror and know you are worth achieving your biggest goals and desires.

I`ve stated all of these for you as an individual because I want to do my best to persuade you to set higher and bigger goals for yourself. Having said that, remember that all four of these reasons apply to your team and your organization of any type.

However, and with whomever, you choose to set bigger goals, you will be glad you did.

I once read a great quote about our perspectives: “you’re on the wrong side of your eyeballs to be objective about you

I once read a great quote about our perspectives: “you’re on the wrong side of your eyeballs to be objective about you.”

I love that quote! It’s short. It’s powerful. It’s accurate. And it perfectly captures the value of executive leadership coaching.

I have lost the source of the quote, but that does not detract from the value of the statement.

We are all on the wrong side of our eyeballs to be objective about ourselves.

Leaders are no different from other people in this regard. They cannot see themselves totally objectively. They need objective evaluation of data, approaches, and outcomes to make better and more effective decisions. They need good, solid feedback from other people so that they can evaluate the quality of their decisions, the results of their actions, and the impact of their interactions with others – both on their teams and with their peers.

Executive leadership coaching is a service that provides leaders with this necessary and vital feedback so that they can learn and grow as leaders.

A good leadership coach will look you in the eye and give you direct, honest input and perspective to facilitate your personal growth and development. They will offer this input whether you want to hear the feedback or not. And, as a leader, that type of honest and direct feedback is what you want.

You probably won’t get this kind of feedback from your team because they will likely be afraid to tell you for fear of negative repercussions on the job.

You are not likely to get it from your peers because they might not see you clearly or they might have powerful motives to hide their true perspective.

And, your supervisor likely sees you through a filter that does not allow them to be totally objective about your decisions, behaviors and interactions with others.

You can be a good leader without coaching. You will probably not become a great leader without it.

Executive leadership coaching can give you the feedback, perspective, and objectivity you need to become the leader you want to be.

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