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Want to feel great and create some positive impact

Want to feel great AND create some positive impact? Try Gratitude.

I love gratitude and consider it a gift in my life. This month we have an extra special excuse to focus on what were grateful for. We get to hopefully be with family and friends who love us, we get to sit around the table and talk about what we’re thankful for. We get to give knowing glances of gratitude to each other. It’s a really cool holiday and one that can sweep you away with joy and gratitude if you let it.

It can also be a time of sadness and challenge for some people. The holidays can bring on all sorts of emotions. Regardless of how the holiday season impacts you, there is always something you can count on to help lift spirits and joy. It’s free. There’s no right way to do it. You can be incredibly generous with it. There is a limitless supply. It creates a powerful impact. It soothes the spirit. It’s Gratitude.

My dare to you this holiday season is to reach out and “gratitude” someone. Go out and make an impact. Not only on the people you know and love – but on the people you don’t. Go out and engage someone you barely know. Let them know how grateful you are for them. Let them know that you see the little deeds that go unnoticed, that you care, that you’re grateful they’re a part of your organization, or your community or your family (for those distant relatives), or your team.

Whoever it is, engage with them from the heart. See them. Thank them. Acknowledge them. Engage them. Do whatever feels right and authentic to you. Do something that will matter. It’s amazing how much a little nod of gratitude can matter. And it’s even more amazing the ripple effects it can have. So go, have fun and show some gratitude. Be generous with your gratitude. Let me know how it goes.

Here are a couple of other things you can do this holiday season to raise that holiday cheer even more and get ready for the New Year:

Start a gratitude journal: Every day journal 3 things you are grateful for.

Break the funk: Whenever you are feeling in a “funk” or low or grumpy – think about what you have to be grateful for. Make a list and check it twice!

Give: Donate time, food or money to a cause that you care about.

Appreciation Days: Dedicate a full day to letting people know how much you appreciate them.

Gratitude Rounds: Spend 10 minutes at the end of every hour doing the “Gratitude Rounds”: make phone calls, write letters, go out of your way to thank the guy at the coffee shop for making you that fabulous coffee every day.

Gratitude DTE Style: (Sincerely) thank someone you’ve butted heads with for teaching you so much and making you stronger (Remember, those who we are most different from, have the most to teach us 😉

Impact Gratitude: Thank your mentors, parents, kids, sibling, colleagues, spouse, teachers, team members, etc. for the impact they’ve had on you this year.

Many ways you can do it. Three rules: make it authentic, go out of your way to do it and make sure it lands! ENJOY!

One simple rule is having a big impact

One Simple Rule is Having a Big Impact.

I didn’t invent the rule. I discovered it — at a small, fast growing, highly successful company that implements simple practices with extraordinary results.

One day I was having lunch with Dwight Cooper, a tall, thin, mild-mannered former basketball player and coach who had spent the last 10 years building and growing a company he co-founded into one of the leading nurse staffing companies in the world. Dwight’s company, PPR, was named one of Inc. Magazines Fastest Growing Companies several times but on this day it was named one of the best companies to work for in Florida and Dwight was sharing a few reasons why.

Dwight told me of a book he read about dealing with jerks and energy vampires in the work place. But after reading and reflecting on the book he realized that when it comes to building a positive, high performing work environment there was a much more subtle and far more dangerous problem than jerks. It was complaining and more subtle forms of negativity and he knew he needed a solution.

Dwight compared jerks to a kind of topical skin cancer. They don’t hide. They stand right in front of you and say, "here I am." As a result you can easily and quickly remove them. Far mare dangerous is the kind of cancer that is subtle and inside your body. It grows hidden beneath the surface, sometimes slow, sometimes fast, but either way if not caught, it eventually spreads to the point where it can and will destroy the body. Complaining and negativity is this kind of cancer to an organization and Dwight had seen it ruin far too many. He was determined not to become another statistic and The No Complaining Rule was born.

The fact is every leader and business will face negativity, energy vampires and obstacles to define themselves and their team’s success. That is why one of the most important things we can do in business and life is to stay positive with strategies that turn negative energy into positive solutions. Thus the goal is not to eliminate all complaining; just mindless, chronic complaining. And the bigger goal is to turn justified complaints into positive solutions. After all, every complaint represents an opportunity to turn something negative into a positive. We can utilize customer complaints to improve our service. Employee complaints can serve as a catalyst for innovation and new processes. Our own complaints can serve as a signal letting us know what we don’t want so we can focus on what we do want. And we can use The No Complaining Rule to develop a positive culture at work.

©2008 Jon Gordon

Author Bio
Jon Gordon is a speaker, consultant, and author of the international bestseller The Energy Bus: 10 Rules to Fuel Your Lift, Work, and Team with Positive Energy, which has inspired readers the world over. He and his books have been featured on CNN and on NBC’s Today show, and in Forbes, Fast Company, O: The Oprah Magazine, the Wall Street Journal, and the New York Times. Clients such as the Jacksonville Jaguars. the PGA Tour, Northwestern Mutual, JPMorgan Chase, and Publix Supermarkets also call all Jon to get their team "on the bus" and moving in the right direction. Jon also impacts thousands of teachers and students each year through his work with schools, universities, and nonprofit organizations. He is a graduate of Cornell University and holds a master’s degree in teaching from Emory University. He lives in northeast Florida with his wife and two high-energy children. 

Do you know that the mind often plays tricks on you

Do you know that the mind often plays tricks on you?

To understand how, let me introduce you to Kate. Kate lives and works in California but she knows there is more to be made with MLM than in with a traditional job so she signed-up with a business; Masters of Wealth (fictional), a company selling self-help products about (how funny), the powers of the mind to manifest abundance. Kate did some research and found out that Internet Marketing is the revolutionary way to promote a product, a service or a business so she bought a course and started studying the secrets of Internet marketing. She has always been a straight-A student and learning these new principles seems quite easy. She is talented and attracts a fair amount of leads to her opt-in page in a short period of time. All seems to go well until…the phone rings!

As the number is hidden, she intuitively knows it must be a prospect. You might wonder: “How can she be so successful at generating traffic and getting leads and then be frightened by a call from a person potentially interested in what she has to offer?” But Kate can’t help it. The sales world has always made her feel quite anxious and marketing on Internet was a nice way to avoid making or receiving calls. Her heart skips a beat. The friendly handset used to receive nice messages from kind friends is now perceived as a threat. Paralyzed, Kate can’t control all the thoughts running through her mind:

“Pick it up, what are you waiting for?”, “Hello, there is someone on the line, he won’t wait forever!”, “It must be a prospect, what do I say, what if I sound weird to him?”, “What am I supposed to say?”, “And what if he asks a question I can’t answer?”, “But if I don’t do it, I might miss a sale”, “I am strong, I can do it…really?”, “Yes I am strong,… just pick it up Kate, come on”,

Kate picks up the phone and takes a deep breath…


The conversation goes smoothly at her astonishment and John, her prospect is happy to know there is a person to contact in case he needs helps. He needs a little bit more time to make his decision on the sale but promises to get back to her and wishes her a very nice day.

So now, what do you think your mind is going to do? It is going to play one of its favorite games: making it sound like it was nothing (unless of course, you have never had any issues with self-esteem in your whole life which would make you an exception).

Do you hear the voice at the back of your mind? Listen carefully:

“That was not a big deal, was it? Every sales person get phone calls like this every day! Why making a fuss about it!? Kate, you haven’t done anything special you know!”

Depending on the situation, your mind might scream for danger, begs you to run away, giving you an infinite number of reasons why you should not do what frightens you justifying it’s for your protection but once you have stepped out of your comfort zone, what does it do? It tells you that you didn’t do anything special!

When you hear this voice, recognize it is your mind playing tricks on you. Don’t listen to it, you do deserve to celebrate. If you are in Kate’s shoes, you have had the courage to act despite your fear and fear was great, remember? It is time to treat yourself; wether it costs you nothing like writing down your new achievement in a journal dedicated to your victories, small and big, or take a break from your work and reflect on your win or maybe you want to go out with friends you have not seen in a long time or going to the movies? You choose what treat will make the event count but make sure you do choose to celebrate in some way!

It is too easy for your mind to make you feel like it was not important. If you listen to it,  you’re set to be unhappy most of the time since it will always find an excuse why your wins are not so important implying that you never perform well enough, that you are not perfect whatever you do. If you celebrate each victory however, no matter how small it may seem, you will reinforce positive beliefs about you and about what you are really capable of doing!

Happy celebrations!

Thank you to Marjean Holden who inspired me to write this post. Her teachings at the Enlightened Warrior Training Camp in Malaysia (October 2009) were profound and very inspiring!

Great leaders use relationship secret


Question: What is a secret shared by fantastic leaders and also great spouses and life partners?

Answer: Cheerleading!

That is, people with excellent leadership skills cheerlead after

* positive events

* victories

* a job well done

They also buoy up employees who experience a setback, bad news, or mistake.


Recent research showed that a person who responds enthusiastically – like a cheerleader – to his or her partner’s good news produces a stronger and healthier relationship than a person who responds compassionately to bad news. This was found in research by Shelly Gable, Ph.D., UCLA psychology professor, and reported in Journal of Personality & Social Psychology (Vol. 91, No. 5).

This relationship research sheds light on a key leadership skill: Leaders who ‘bond’ and form strong, productive relationships with employees and colleagues excel at cheerleading.

Gable and fellow researchers videotaped 79 couples talking about positive and negative events. Then, trained raters coded their partners’ responses for

* Usefulness: constructive or destructive

* Enthusiasm: energetic or passive

Example: A person proudly tells their partner that she or he just landed a promotion. Then, there are four possible responses to accomplishment:

1. Best response: Energetic – Constructive = “You really deserve it! You’ve been working hard for that promotion, and you earned it.”

2. Wishy-washy response: Passive – Constructive = only saying, “That’s nice.”

3. Lousy response: Energetic – Destructive = “Are you sure you can handle all that responsibility?”

4. Ultra-lousy response: Passive – Destructive = changing the subject

The research participants also filled-out a relationship satisfaction questionnaire eight weeks later, focusing on their partners’ response style to positive and negative events.


Super-useful finding: People with partners who typically give Energetic – Constructive responses to positive events reported the highest level of relationship satisfaction.

Another useful finding: A partner’s Energetic – Constructive response to positive events does more good for their relationship satisfaction than a partner’s sympathetic response to bad news.


So, how can managers, executives and other leaders use these intriguing research findings?

1st Tip – for positive events = When your employees or work colleagues do something wonderful, make sure you immediately give an Energetic – Constructive response. Translation: Act like a delighted and enthusiastic cheerleader.

2nd Tip – for negative events = When your co-workers or employees hit roadblocks or make mistakes at work, a fabulous leader immediately

* acts understanding

* resists the temptation to push their face in the mud

* makes sure the employees do not wallow in their problems

For example, if an employee makes a mistake, you can say, “I realize that bothers you. I know you usually do a great job. How can you avoid making that mistake again in the future?” Transform the negative event into a mood-lifting comment and encouragement.


As leaders, you can apply this relationship research in your day-to-day leadership skills. The results will be a stronger emotional bond with your employees. Since ‘what-goes-around-comes-around,’ the stronger the bond, the more likely your employees will

* enthusiastically support your leadership vision

* see to it that your goals get accomplished

* achieve high productivity – to earn your delightful cheerleading response again and again

© Copyright 2007 The Mercer Group, Inc.

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